Your Desires Can be your curse or blessings depending how they use you or on how you use them.

Because of their power certain traditions suggest to learn to suppress our desires. We’ve all probably heard of master leaving austere and ascetic lifestyle who believe in depriving self in order to reach “Nirvana” or to realize their highest self. Some group of people promise to stay poor, in order to avoid material acquisition and more wants. Their approach to happiness is to reduce the desire part of the equation.

On the other hand, the current predominant culture in capitalism foster consumerism, which naturally and purposefully lead people to activate and exercise their want and desires muscle- which is the primary goal of our master marketers-How to incite people to want and desires their products?

Regardless of what you think is right or wrong, the real question is why these two extremes polarities?

Below, I’m going to share why and what you can do about it in order to come ahead.

Frankly, the answer lies in this sentence “Your Desires Can be your curse or blessings depending how they use you or on how you use them.”

 Why this matter to you?

It does matter because for the same reason that fire can be used to keep you warm and cook your food, we all agree that fire can be used to destroy or cleanse.

Similarly our desires are like a knife with two edges. Which is why I believe it’s important for us to learn to use them effectively and WITH A CLEAR PURPOSE FOR THE OUTCOME we intend to use it for.

It’s a follow up in some way to what I share last time about our emotions.

Our desires invoke in us, EMOTIONS and FEELINGS.  I personally believe that we shouldn’t run away from our emotions, but we can use them as dashboard indicators helping to give us feedback on our states, and many more useful information.

The key is to learn how to use them.

Having desire and want, create in us polarization. As we get polarized, our perception is skewed and our subjectivity meter is higher and higher;

In a way the real question that we should ask ourselves are there benefits (or disadvantages) in being subjective about a subject or a desire outcome?


The “natural” answer is probably to jump to conclusion and say no; as nowadays many of us   are raised to be “rationale” and as much objective as possible that in many ways we’re being led to deny that we’re also emotional being.

The real secret lies in what I shared last time; it’s about understanding the power of this concept-

FEELING and EMOTIONS happen in the present moment, not in the past or in the future, But in the moment.

How is that relevant for us here?

When we have desire, we’re polarized already. The key is to use that as a guidance system.

The desire and the want help us to identify what we want, what we want to become.

In fact Napoleon Hill in his classic book “think and grow rich”, talk about the power of having a burning desire; which is your longings, or discontents. A Burning desire is powerful because it’s like being pregnant with that idea and desire as you are present with that idea and cannot escape from it. One cannot be “half pregnant”. That’s the power of identifying our desires and our want, AND NOT run away from it; instead we should embrace it and use it as a leverage.

In a way running from it is like being “half pregnant” and you might never experience what you want deep down. In a way it’s like saying to a gardener I want vegetable in my garden and not providing to the gardener the seeds that need to be planted in your soil that you already have.

Here’s the biggest secret that make the huge difference and understanding that power is paramount.

Why is it a big secret? Because majority of people don’t use it even tough it’s a very simple concept.  

Most people stay in the feeling of “wanting” happiness (for example). Or when I get xyz, I will be happy etc…  Here’s the nuance- When you say, I WILL BE happy, you are saying I AM NOT happy; as we just learn, feeling and emotions happen in the present.

Small detail But very powerful.  What that means?

The desire, and the want help you to identify what you need to Become, what you need to be emoting. In a way, that polarization is a prelude, and a life preview of what need to happen in order for you to get what you want. Mastery consist in transmuting that want into the present moment. Here in lies the power of REAL Masters of ALL AGES in ALL Cultures.

They understood that everything they want to experience is within them and right NOW. So they resonate in that vibration (whether or not their realities or current circumstances show different). And it’s not heresy or magic thinking, but here in lies mastery.

That’s how you can leverage the power of your desires to lead yourself, your community and the world at large. That’s how a Mahatma Gandhi inspired his country or a mother Theresa transform a whole community.

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