How to Feel the Way You Want to Feel Part 2?

As we discussed in last episode and posting we discussed how our “rules” frame what triggers us into generating our feeling.

The revealing question to uncover those rules “What has to happen in order for me to feel joy (for example) Etc.…

Exploring the rules that trigger our emotion is SO IMPORTANT, that I hope you will be listening to this podcast couple times. Late former disciple of Freud, Carl Jung said-There can be no transforming of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without emotion.”CARL JUNG.Indeed emotions are the fuel to our lives and our actions, so understanding them is so crucial.

It’s imperative to remind ourselves about the fact that we do our emotions. ? We are at the source of all our emotions; we create them.Indeed, Emotions, even those that seem painful in the short term, are truly like an internal compass that points people toward the actions we must take to arrive at our goals.

So many of us feel that we have to wait for certain experiences in order to feel the emotions we desire. We’re always waiting for the right person, the right situation, the right combination to come along before we feel good.As an example, some people don’t give themselves permission to feel loved, happy or confident unless a particular set of expectations is met.

In reality, who determines whether this is the right person or situation?

Let’s face it, when you do feel good, who’s making you feel good? You are!!! Not the person or the situation. What is happening is that, we simply have rules/filters we have developed and build per our beliefs system that says we have to wait until X, Y and Z C occur before we allow ourselves to feel good.

You know  what the good news is my friend?

You can feel any way you choose at any moment in time.

Yes even for people addicted to drugs or narcotics. Our brain has neuro-transmitter that are triggered based on our filters, which make our body secrets hormones like (dopamine in case of joy as an example)…etc…

So the exciting news is this principle that we can create our emotion. Why wait for them and NOT create them a will. This is the WHOLE premise of Emotional target.

We want to “reproduce” at will, feeling we want to experience.

Because in the example in the example of joy, love, or gratitude, why wait for events to “confirm” our rules? Why not build our own rules so that we can feel what we want to feel?

Unlike animals we can design that for ourselves. That’s what the wise men have called paradise on earth; if you grasp this nuance and apply it, not only theoretically, but also practice it, it will change your life…

To close the loop, let’s refresh ourselves that our perceptions are controlled by what we focus on and the meanings we give or interpret from things. And No doubt, like Tony Robbins teaches we can change our perception in a moment, just by changing the way we use our physiology or by asking different or better question.

I invite you to ask yourself this question-What do I really want to feel?

What would I have to believe in order to feel the way I’ve been feeling?

This is your homework before next week practical podcast where we roll up our sleeve to really determine/set some of our new rules.

Till next time, live your power with purpose and passion

How to Feel What You Want to Feel? Part 1

We discussed how our perception is driven by our filters. One major filter that determine the way we feel and act is our rules.

We all experience on a daily basis top 10-12 emotions on a frequent basis. And better yet  2-3 emotions that are dominant in our daily lives!!! What are yours? Is it anxiety? Is it serenity?  Centeredness? Is it suspicious? Is it poor me? Is it regret? Is it outraged? Is it cool? Is it hypocrite? Is it playful? Is it wholeness?  Whatever that it is it is important to identify them and master them so that you can change them or amplifies them.

The bottom line is that anything we want to do, have, be or experience in our lives is because at the end there’s a feeling, an emotion we want to experience…whether it  is having a new car, a new house, a family, or doing something exciting or being a certain way or hanging out with friends.

So the easiest way to determine some way we want to feel is to identify our top rules.

Key question to ask is “What has to happen in order for me to feel “peaceful”, what has to happen in order for me to feel confident…

That key question will drive you to understand the “conditions” you have molded your subconscious to be triggered. The conditions here are actions/behaviors which are judgment made by our perceptions (through our filters) of the events.

The conditions are your rules that have been stamped into your brain since childhood or from significant emotional events.

For example in order for me to feel happy, I need to feel “wholeness”..etc..

So the major work is to dig deeper so that you can identify a “simple” condition that make you feel a certain way based on the conditions.

For example what has to happen for you in order for you to feel “empowered”?

In there you will discover if you are internal filter driven or external filter driven… For example do you have to have someone approval in order for you to know that you have done a great job? Or you do know within yourself when you have done a good job? This can be a key question when you hire a leader/manager in your team? If the candidate is self driven etc..

The next level of our rules is the Must/should…

The “should” are most generated and created by our environment. The should burden us a lot . the should are “apps” that are running in our background and that makes run slow in our daily activities. The “should” are slowing down the human processors- Like when  many applications are  opened on our computer , the computer slow down it’s processing power. In Human being the “should” are  the voice of critics, norms,.  It does slow down,the actions in us. CUT down your should if you want to be more powerful and less burdened!!!

Then there is the “must” which is a higher level that commands a stronger feeling of what we ought to do or be… when a should become a must, we act and we move!!

What are your “should “and “must”?

Homework is to find out with your top 2-3 emotions, what are your top 2-3 rules you have built and molded for yourself?

Let’s say you experience anxiety daily? What has to happen for you to “feel” anxious?”;What has to happen for you feel confident …?

Till then, live your power with purpose and passion


In this Post, we are continuing on Understanding the Human machine control part 2 theme!!I hope it’s  clear by now that our vibe, or electromagnetic energy that we project is a combination of both what we think/believe and  how we feel.

Let’s start to explore the Emotion landscape.Emotion, is “E”motion indeed, it’s Energy in Motion.

“What is a feeling and an emotion , how is created?  can we control it?

We do our emotions!! emotions don’t happen to us!!

In fact the TRIAD suggested by Tony Robins is a good example to illustrate on how the 3 molders of meaning (Physiology, Language and Focus), Influence and almost determine on a short term how we feel. The state of each of these 3 elements determine our state and how we feel. So if you wan to control how you feel; the easiest way is to change one of these 3 stated above.That’s why for example after working out we feel upbeat or better? or after listening to a song  our physiology change when we start moving and our state changes..

But on a long term it’s our filters and our beliefs.

But let’s look at our emotional state.which is is a physical sensation.

For example let’s stay  the emotion and feeling of “pleasure”; that emotion is triggered by hormones we secret in our body- mostly our organs (in this case in our brain secret dopamine let’s say). Dopamine triggered by neurotransmitter which are in our human lymbic brain. the negro-transmitter are triggered based on the “interpretation/perception of events  in our environment”.

Basically our perception control the  signal that is triggered by our neurotransmitter.

Our perception are determined  by our filters. Part of our filters are determined  by the  meaning we associate to events.

The meaning  and the association we attach to events is the basis of our filters. One of the leading filter is our VALUES.

Our values are being driven by our rules.for example , let’s say friendship is one of your highest value.

When you think about it, each of us have RULES about  for example what friendship means.

So our rules drive how we feel in the long term and consistent basis.So Homework is this:

What are your top 2-3  VALUES and what are your top 2-3 rules around this VALUES. The easiest way to find out about your rules is to ask yourself this question:


I hope you do the homework..these are important  to know yourself so you can transmute your destiny…

Until next time, live your power with passion and purpose

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Understanding the Human Control Machine- Part 2!!!!

Anything  Created in our plane and dimension has been created twice and it’s a 3 phase process. The first part  is the inception phase which  involves a moving forward, an expansion motion. Like an arrow, it involves being targeted, it involves having a  direction, being intentional, like  an electric charge  field it directs .For example Chinese tradition called  it YAN-(cf,to yin-yan),  or the male’s the assertive.To be more visual it’s like the arrow, well represented even  in  the  human male  organ of reproduction as in the phallus.

The second  phase after the inception is  the gestation phase.In the gestation phase the  necessary element  in structure and function is the surrender element. The accepting part, the integrative part, like the bow, that part has to relax, to accept , to give in. like the Warrior with the bow which is a flexible arc which shoots aerodynamic projectiles called arrow- the bow has to be supple , open, accepting. in order for the gestation to last, acceptance . That’s the female element- the YIN.

That element in human is OUR EMOTIONS!!!  That’s the feedback  System in the Human control machine. Our body is the vehicle that stores our emotions; which means our body through the use of our nervous  system(which is the bridge between the brain-neural network) capture the emotional field of what we perceive.It’s our magnetic field.

The 3rd phase in the creation is the birth process. Which is manifestation phase. the alignment phase..the coherence and resonance phase.

No need to repeat the energetic nature of our universe, as it’s been demonstrated by quantum  physics;everything resonates and has a vibration. Everything is energy.In fact 99.99%  of the universe is all made of energy. the “material” plane that we perceive is a tiny part of what IS..and even that part is energy vibrating at a slower vibration.

As above so below, so below as above. We are part of this universe and it is clear that we create through our electromagnetic field– Which is combining our filters(thoughts, beliefs) AND our EMOTIONS. Different school of  thoughts have promoted one (BELIEFS )or the other( EMOTIONS). That’s  not accurate. We need both to create and transform. we need our unique ELECTROMAGNETIC signature to match the  vibration of the state,the energy, the frequency of what we want manifested.

In fact anything we want to experience, have, do,  or be in our lives is a feeling and an emotion at the end. The car, the charity, we give, the children we raise, the medal, the trophy. The lasting sensation is who we become in the journey.That emotion/feeling is what we’re after..

Would it makes to understand how to get it? In the next post we’ll discuss about that..

Listen in the podcast to learn more about the homework and the next blog, next week.

Let me me know your thoughts,  and feel  free to subscribe to the podcast as well. on iTunes or stitcher radio..

Until next time, Live your power with purpose and passion


Understanding the Human Control Machine!!!!

Albert Einstein said “God doesn’t play with Dice” while  looking at  the universe, its pattern and the world. What a statement of profound humility from one of the most respected brain of of human history. In fact He learned enough science to understand the why and much of the how. He could see the consistency and relationship between all things. Thus, to him, nothing was random chance. Truth is absolute and works every time!

As above so below, So below as above… The same wonder and conclusion can be drawn when looking at the human mind.

From a builder/designer perspective, let’s dive into our mind.

When one creates a product (i.e a car, phone, telephone etc..), the creator always ask 3 fundamentals questions: THE WHAT, THE WHY, and the HOW.

Fair  enough our brain is wired that way.


Our brain is ALWAYS in one of this binary state. there’s no in between.Indeed we’re either growing or dying.

Dying is restriction, shrinking, constraint, it’s survival. VS. Creation  which is growth, expansion, aliveness, movement .


The revelation here is to understand that no matter what our actions are, every human being has a POSITIVE INTENT. the action or behavior could be damaging to its surrounding, but ultimately, the intent is positive… really? why..

Ultimately, our mind intent is always one these 3 things:

Protect, Prevent or Provide.

Which means when people act they have one these intent(consciously or unconsciously)


As we discussed in the last post (your perceptions create your reality),  our mind is exposed to 2 Millions bit of information each

second; while the brain can process only about 120 bit of information/second. Which means the brain to be optimal operates 3 modes(Delete, Distort or Generalize).

Very fascinating isn’t it ? Nature might not be random after all?

Or is it random?

Before you answer this question, I’m inviting you to look at your daily actions the next seven days(work and domestic environment).

Can you identify 3 behaviors/actions where you apply the WHAT, WHY and the HOW. Even better can you deliberately design patterns?

What do you think?

Listen in the audio for more details!!

Until next time,Live your Power with Purpose and Passion


Your Perception Creates Your Reality

In this posting we reviewed the human need psychology(uncovered by Tony Robbins). The idea that  all human have 6 basics need that drive and underline any action or decision we take.

In  summary it’s basically the fact that our  beliefs are related to our emotions and our emotions are based on our physiology, our focus and the meaning we give to events.

Well In this episode, We shared  the fact that Human beings are bombarded with 2 Millions bit of information per second( yes you read read it correctly(2.000.000 bit /sec). In my personal opinion  it’s even more than that, with the new  digital age  and 24 hour cycle of news we live in.

Why is this relevant?

The fact is that Human being can ONLY process on average 120 bit/sec. So what that means for us?

Very simple, it means we don’t and we cannot process ALL the data around us or coming at us at any given moment; therefore our brain has to make sense of this information somehow in order for us to survive and function properly!! yes our brain does three things at any given time.

Our brain Delete information, Distort or Generalize in order for us  to make sense of the info coming at us at any given moment. In neuroscience they call it the R.A.S or the reticular activating system. Basically our brain creates a framework based on our internal filters(beliefs, values, our memories etc….). Have  you ever bought a new car to only notice that in the traffic everybody has that car or you happen to notice more of your car brand , model and style?

Yes it happens to all of us’s your R.A.S at work.. Similarly in our daily lives, any actions, decisions or observations we make is highly FILTERED by our FRAME or our PERCEPTION. This is why when a same event happens, two people have a slightly different interpretation of it.

This is why our perception shapes our reality!!

The second relevance of this is about quantum physics!!! the fact that there are a lot of information  and possibilities out there. And the  fact that the observers  are the ones choosing to bring the reality they “observe”… Which is very exciting if you grasp the two concept discuss here!!

When you listen to the podcast, I’m suggesting for you participate and do a homework.. which will help you to start taking charge of your destiny as what we do is to help people transmute their destiny…

Enjoy the listening and talk to you next time.

Self-knowledge is the beginning of self-improvement

The object of all life is development; and everything that lives has an inalienable right to all development it is capable of attaining. Man’s right to life means his right to have the free and unrestricted use of all things which be necessary to his fullest mental, spiritual and physical unfoldment- Wallace D Wattles.

This statement is so dear to my heart that I believe that you deserve to live your best life.Your Life matters.In order to make your life’s important to understand yourself. how do you define yourself ?

Let’s pause for a minute? How do you define yourself? A mother? father? a brother,sister, a father, daughter, a friend , doctor? Do you define yourself by your role or by your profession, by your gender? by your race? by your environment? by your hobbies? well it’s very simple, your personality defines your personal reality (as  would say Dr .Joe Dispenza).

Regardless, some people want to have a great romantic relationship.  Others  may want success and results in business.  Some people want to contribute to others.  Some want to be better parents.  There are those that want to be healthy and energetic.  Some may want people want all of this?  What beliefs and emotions are  driving you? our beliefs are related to our emotions and our emotions are based on our physiology, our focus and the meaning we give to events.  Tony Robbins  call it the Triad

In this section and podcast we explore how we’re all  driven by 6 human needs develop and suggested by Tony Robbins.

Transmute Your Destiny!!!

Many people are living stressful and renounced lives. As it is, many people believe they have no power to change the course of their current lives and destiny. Activity without purpose is a drain to a life of fulfillment as would say Tony Robbins. In this introductory session your transformation buddy Soul Ongoiba, shares with you what he believes in and How this podcast can and will help you to Transmute Your Destiny. You can “live your power” with purpose, intention and passion. As it is, you’ll get a chance to meet Soul and understand why he’s passionate about human potential…with his eclectic background in engineering, entrepreneurship/business, elite athlete, martial art and human potential; Soul Ongoiba has been able to reinvent himself multiple times and wants to help people do the same. I truly believe, that everybody deserve to live their best life…Don’t let anybody or any event beat you down so you would give up on yourself or your dreams!! You are here to manifest your glory and your magnificence that was bestowed upon you by the universe and its creator. Don’t waste it!! Your life Matters!!! Live Your Power with Purpose and Passion..

Do you believe you can change your Destiny?

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